The Art of the Attempt

Why Gen-Y Doesn’t Blog/Twitter

February 4, 2010 · 1 Comment

Disclaimer: This is not meant to be offensive towards any age group. If you’re a member of the 40+ crowd, way to go being all tech-savvy…I don’t mean to call you stupid. If you’re a 20-something, I also don’t mean to call you stupid. These are typical things that I have seen and experienced. If you feel otherwise, please comment and prove me wrong. My cynical outlook on modern society needs some sunshine.

Alright so one of the more frequently posted things I’ve noticed in the past few days is some analysis of a Pew survey on teen internet usage. I, personally, read this article from FastCompany.

“Teens love facebook, hate blogging, are always online, and don’t use twitter.”

Gasp!!!! What????? Don’t use twitter??? Why do they love facebook? Kids don’t blog??? What do they do online if they aren’t obsessively using social media outlets???

This is why we (ages 17-25) don’t listen to you. This is why we laugh at you. Because we’re not impressed. Here’s the deal:

  1. We’re not impressed by technology. We expect technology.
  2. For the most part, kids don’t care about the world. They care about themselves

The rest of this post is going to be something of an angry complaint about old people online. It’s not very coherent…but I’m posting it anyway. If you care to keep reading, do so at your own risk. Keep reading →

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Newfound Respect for News Aggregators

February 3, 2010 · Leave a Comment

Alright so…I found this article from TechCrunch via @techglance entitled “Everyone forgets the readers when they bash news aggregators”

Sometimes I have to break down sentences to really understand them…elementary? Yes. Effective? Absolutely. Embarrassing? Slightly.

So okay my thought process:

“News aggregators”… yeah okay I like them a lot

“Forgets the readers”…okay yeah caring about the people

“Everyone forgets…bashing…”…WHAT? Bashing news aggregators who care about the people? Aw hell no!

I never really thought about those who actually aggregate the content I read online. And I’ve never given them the big pat on the back that they deserve. Honestly, without them, I would probably still be spending my online time on Facebook Chat. Those sites opened my eyes to the relevancy of the news, and for that I am forever grateful. I do visit a few actual sites (WSJ, BusinessWeek, Forbes), but only because I haven’t found a really good business news aggregator I like yet (BizSugar hasn’t really cut it in that department). I would say 89% of what I read online (thats a hell of a lot of reading) is found through sites like Alltop, TechCrunch, BizSugar, etc. It’s a brilliant idea. The fact that anyone in the news and/or technology industry would be opposed to it is archaic and counterproductive.

I do love the Mavs, and I hate to express disdain for any part of my team, but come on, Mark Cuban. How can you turn your back on your own kind? I also would never want to say anything to discredit the joys of capitalism, but when someone in the industry insists that making money is more important than spreading a message, I’ve got to question their sincerity. Read that post, it’s really good. And funny. And I like that picture of the vampire.

So way to go, all you content aggregators out there. Thanks to you, all those too young and/or forward-thinking to subscribe to print (or pay online…pshh) get the opportunity to learn and develop and grow. I am who I am today because of these people. (Well…them and the genius that gave me such a great hairstyle)

By the way, I mentioned that I have yet to find a really good site that aggregates serious finance/business news. That was a clandestine attempt to get people to help me find one without flat-out asking for help. So for all of you that didn’t catch it, do you have any suggestions? Send them my way. If the sites turn out to be spam and/or your attempt to market your blog about social media immortality or the joys of tweeting or losing 60 pounds in 3 hours….I will end your world.

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Leadership vs. Management

January 28, 2010 · Leave a Comment

Leadership vs. Management? Wait, aren’t they the same thing? Ohhh wait… wow yeah, they aren’t.

So yesterday my mentors finally took off the training wheels and let me lead my first staff meeting. I was so ready. I had a well-organized agenda and a great outfit. Not to mention a ton of confidence. There’s no way this couldn’t go perfectly…

Well… let’s just say it did not go perfectly. I was behind schedule, letting other people talk too much, getting too off-track, and completely losing my focus. How is this possible??? Practically since birth, people have been telling me what a great leader I am. A natural-born leader. Great leadership qualities. Great potential as a leader. Most likely to lead a company. And so far, I have been a damn good leader. So why am I having so much trouble managing?? It came up in a discussion the other day that leadership and management are two very different things.

In my mind, leadership comes naturally. People want to listen to you and follow your lead. They respect you. Management, on the other hand, is given. Yes, you earn the title of manager, but someone else deems you suitable for the position. You have deadlines and initiatives and contingencies and so on. I now realize that my great leadership ability does not make me a good manager. This is something I’m actually going to have to work at. Rather than reading things that reaffirm that which I already knew, I’m going to be forced to read to learn something. Dang.

So how do I apply my talent as a leader to the role of a manager? I found this post about leading in 2010 from LeadershipNow. It discusses three main things great leaders do successfully:

  1. They act and think systematically
  2. They see people as the route to performance
  3. They are self-confident without being arrogant

After initially glancing at those items, I thought to myself: Why yes, I do all of those things…yet I am still failing. However, I failed to see the less attractive side of those items as they applied to my own talents:

  1. I act and think systtematically…when I’m strategizing by myself. When I get around other people, I spend so much time listening to whatever they say and considering the hell out of their points that I lose track of where we should be going. I feel that as a manager, you must always keep an eye on the path ahead, while still engaging your employees in the present.
  2. I do see people as the route to performance…but I don’t always communicate with them and get their opinion. I feel like the manager should be a chess player, and the employees his chess pieces. But not regular sized pieces. Rather, the lifesize chess games that you see in Mexican resorts. I, on the other hand, play with a regular chess set. I will use them without regard to their own magnitude as individuals. That sounds so awful now that I am reading it. Well, poor me.
  3. I am self-confident…maybe without being arrogant? I have a hell of a lot of confidence, but I am always willing to question whether or not my theories or actions are the best. I love learning, and I love being taught. But who the hell was I to walk into a meeting relying only on my natural abilities and a stupid piece of paper with some items on it?? Looking back, I should have started looking at the characteristics of a great board meeting. How could I have applied them? I find myself immediately considering myself better than everyone until they prove otherwise. Maybe this isn’t the way to go?

For those that are constantly praised and find most “challenges” incredibly easy, realizing that you have to work at something is a hard truth to swallow. I have been pretty down on myself recently. (see last post) I hate not being good at things. I hate not being the prodigy that can do no wrong. I know I have to try at this attempt. And by god, I’m going to do it. This time next week (or next month or something) I’m going to be the best damn manager there ever was…for a person of my age and experience level, of course. I will utilize my systematic methods and self awareness to bolster myself to the managerial hall of fame.

Either that, or I will spend another day feeling like I’m worthless and don’t deserve anything and need to give up. It has yet to be determined.

What do you think about the differences of leadership vs management? Am I totally off-base? I need guidance…please feel free to provide it.

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Attempt at Perseverance

January 28, 2010 · 1 Comment

It has been a long week. A long ass week filled with things I did not want to deal with. It all culminated in a meeting with a company advisor where I suddenly found myself crying to him (literally, tears) about my fears of inadequacy…

Tears? Talking about my fears in life? To a company advisor??? How the hell did I get here?

Today, for the first time in my life, I just wanted to be my age. I didn’t want to be Diana Mayland, MS student, Director of AiB Consulting, Senior Campus Representative for Apple… I just wanted to be Diana Mayland, 22 years old, that one Kappa that loves to have fun. I didn’t want the responsibility of being an adult, and I didn’t want the burden. The pressure finally got to me.

I think sometimes the biggest burdens we bear are the ones we cannot share with others. For example, I’m currently worried about our current resource allocation in my company. I’m also worried that I have an employee that is being insubordinate. I’m also worried that I will end up leading a team filled with people 10 years older than me, and probably male, and they won’t respect me either. I’m also worried that my visionary thinking and dreaming will never amount to anything. I’m also worried that all the innovators and dreamers of the world will never fundamentally change the world. We can all keep picking at this big bureaucracy, but will we ever tear it down?

The point is, it all finally got to me. So when all those little worries finally all start swarming around inside your head, eating away at your optimism and confidence…what do you do? I broke down and cried and made myself a cocktail. The answer of life coaches everywhere would be to persevere.

Okay, yeah, persevere. Sure. Take a deep breath and keep plugging forward. Right yeah simple. Oh wait, no, it isn’t. I’d rather just sit here and pout and further destroy my liver. But of course, the life coaches and Wes Maylands (my dad) of the world would tell me to stop being counter-productive and get over it. Give me a thousand motivational quotes. I will still be pissed off.

So when all the principles you’ve stood for and work you’ve sweat for and boyfriends you’ve lost because you’re too intelligent now seem like a huge waste of time…what do you do? What do you do when you’re fed up with perseverance?

I suppose the only thing to do is keep plugging along and hoping you get over it. I suppose that’s what I’ve always done. But as visionary thinker, when you see a problem, aren’t you supposed to present a change? Rather than just cope?

I’m reading a book entitled Influencer: The Power to Change Anything right now for a class. I’m not in love with it. However, it presents the issue that we as humans are better at coping than at influencing. So I am sick of coping. How can I persevere in an innovative manner that will reduce the recurrence of another mental breakdown within the next month?

I don’t really have a resolution or a word of advice with this post… I just have a lot of questions. All I know is that I do not like my star-filled eyes filled with tears and worry wrinkles. I’m too damn young for that.

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Reflections on Managerial Innovation

January 25, 2010 · Leave a Comment

So for my Organizational Leadership seminar (TBD), I had to write a reaction paper on The Future of Management by Gary Hamel. It was named the #1 business book of 2007 by WSJ. Gary Hamel is also the author of Leading the Revolution and Competing for the Future. Great great books. I spent quite a while on this piece, and I’m assuming my professor will be asking me if he can publish it (kidding…maybe), so it might be worth reading. It highlights my love/hate relationship with the corporate power-monger, as well as some inquiries regarding the appropriate role of the Manager. Here’s a little excerpt:

The Future of Management by Gary Hamel has provoked notions in me spanning the entire emotional spectrum, all of which have been considered and developed with particular focus on my volatile disillusionment with current corporate orthodoxies as well as my inquiry of the proper role of the manager. I can say that this book has been an invaluable tool in my attempt at overcoming existing orthodoxies and redefining the role of the manager. The book surpassed any expectations I had by teaching me things I did not realize I needed to learn. It was also an effective supplement to a mantra from Neville Goddard that I have always tried to follow: “Learn to shake yourself loose from what the world believes is the only reality.” Prior to reading this book, I believed that certain issues were palpable obstructions to innovative management strategy that could eventually get the best of me. I now see that the issues are less than palpable obstructions. They are completely insignificant. Hamel has helped me to understand that the conventions and ideals of the world are utterly extraneous for a rule-breaking, innovation-seeking renegade that is passionately determined to change the world.

So if you like the concepts or just want to see more of my eloquent writing, then go ahead and read or skim the rest of it! I’m relatively proud. Not my best work, but it’s okay. So click on, my friends, click on.

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Reaching New Heights in Twitter Deception

January 25, 2010 · Leave a Comment

I really hate that I’ve been writing about Twitter so much. That’s not what this blog is about. I swear this is the last time I will rant about the “social media guru” who uses deceitful tactics to make his followers feel important and thus, gain more followers. I’m about to be over it. But the strategy I’m about to write about is just deplorable.

I’m not going to call this person out, (or those he is mentioning, for that matter) and I’m not going to talk about him individually (maybe), because that’s just mean. However, I will reprimand the hell out of his strategy. I just saw this post on my twitterfeed:

@tweeterA saw your tweets and decided to follow you, lets exchange valuable resources by you following me, look forward to connecting.

My chicanery radar started beeping…so I kept reading…

@tweeterB saw your tweets and decided to follow you, lets exchange valuable resources by you following me, look forward to connecting.

The beeping grew louder as my brow began to furrow…

@tweeterC saw your tweets and decided to follow you, lets exchange valuable resources by you following me, look forward to connecting.

You’ve got to be kidding me…

@tweeterD saw your tweets and decided to follow you, lets exchange valuable resources by you following me, look forward to connecting.

What the hell? So I immediately unfollowed, then looked to see exactly how many people he tried to fool. I stopped counting at 47. Come on…

When someone mentions me, I feel pretty special. It’s not about that enchanting asperand (@). It’s the fact that someone wants to ask a question/make a comment/express appreciation/etc. I initiated a reaction. That’s big for me. So if someone were to @ me saying, “Hey I think you’re cool. Maybe you think I’m cool. Let’s share some thoughts.” I would be very flattered. I would then proceed to view his profile to see if he was worth following. Wait! What’s this? He also thinks 459 other people are cool? My ego could not handle the shock. Really.

It’s not even about a lack of authenticity at this point. It’s a calculated attempt at deception. I don’t care if your tweets will lead me to the fountain of youth (yes, I’m already worried about aging, I know…), don’t play me for a fool. Getting duped is potentially the worst feeling ever. Ever.

So, to all you twitter fraudsters out there, I beg you to please PLEASE stop what you’re doing. Don’t deceive your followers. Chances are, you will get away with it. But you will be forever known to the wise as a total phony, not to mention a complete and utter douche bag.

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Acting with Purpose

January 22, 2010 · Leave a Comment

I’m constantly changing my opinion of the whole Twitter concept. I’ve become sort of disillusioned with the “social media gurus”, or as Tremendous News refers to them: social media douchebags. I constantly put myself in check to ensure that I’m doing this for the right reasons. 90% of the time, I am.

In general, I find it really odd (not to mention incredibly annoying) that people do something that they never really cared about and then trick themselves into thinking they care about it only so that other people will like them or pay attention because they care about it. It seems like a terribly empty way to go through life.

However, every once in a while, you find someone that is doing something for the right reasons. They are involved in an activity to learn or share thoughts or something else great. I recently got promoted to the director of my consulting group. It’s tough. And my mind is completely incapable of that much organization. Thus, I had a total breakdown and realized I needed some project management software. I knew that Twitter would be a good arena to get some feedback on good PM apps for Mac, so I threw it out there. Almost immediately, I was retweeted by Solving Problems (@helpmesolve). I checked out their profile, and instantly fell back in love with Twitter. Their profile states their purpose pretty explicitly:

“We retweet tweets calling for help voiced on Twitter. Feel free to follow us.”

Jackpot. No obligatory hashtags, no “visit my blog for expert twitter advice”, no “make millions by sitting on your ass”. The only thing this guy/girl/team wants is to help others. I was floored. Solving Problems is doing just that. Solving problems. They are acting with a direct purpose. And a damn good one.

I think it’s important to take the time to look at your daily activities and ask yourself why the hell you’re doing them. And don’t lie to yourself. That’s just a waste of your brainpower. How do you feel about your answer? Are you embarassed? If so, redirect whatever it is you’re doing. Act with purpose.

So kudos to you, @helpmesolve. You have a great purpose and a great platform on which to act. I’m thoroughly impressed.

As for the rest of you, make your tweets/blog posts/conversation worth my time. I feel no remorse for unfollowing.

On a side note, everyone should visit Tremendous News. He’s a really funny guy, not to mention an incredibly talented artist.

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Boring or Obnoxious? Pick Your Poison.

January 19, 2010 · Leave a Comment

“If people aren’t talking about you, there’s a reason. You’re boring – your products are boring, your services are boring, your message is boring, your marketing is boring . . .”

via Seth Godin Thinks You’re Boring | Small Business Marketing Blog from Duct Tape Marketing.

I can rarely handle anything that commands more than 30 minutes of my attention. I did, however, listen to this entire interview (while doing homework). It’s pretty good. I suggest listening to it, downloading it, then listening to it again once you think you’re no longer boring.

I like a lot of what he says in the context in which he says it. However, I feel like this is the sort of thing that people would misinterpret and then apply to the rest of their lives, and become obnoxious failures. They may not be boring, but they are definitely going to be obnoxious.

So which is worse? Being obnoxious or being boring?

A lot of people and things in this world annoy me. I won’t even attempt to list any of them, as it would take far too long and I would come off as a severe bitch.

In any case, I cannot stand people that bore me. Like it’s more than uninteresting to me… it’s actually painful. I have a good friend that will look at a simple, boring girl and say “I just want to punch her in the face.” What? Why? She’s so sweet and nonabrasive! “Just to see how someone that boring would react to something so not boring.” She’s a champ. I love her.

On the other hand, even if someone has something worth saying, hearing or seeing it all the time is just as bad for me. I actually cannot stand people or things that have too much hype. Get it out of my face, please. People talk about things because (a) they think it will make others listen, (b) they think it’s what people want to hear, or (c) they’re desperate for attention. Either way, that’s ugly. And annoying. And due to lack of substance, boring as hell. I’m sure you’ve heard all the quotes (many of which I have tweeted) that basically say to be leery of those who talk to much or are always the center of attention. They probably have alterior motives. Or they’re just douchebags that want to be heard for the sake of being heard. Either way, annoying.

I will be the first to say that I don’t know a whole lot about successful blogging or marketing strategies, etc. But I know what actually sparks my interest. And I’m probably the harshest critic I know. I find fault with almost everything. But here’s what I think:

If you don’t have something really really REALLY worthwhile and unique to say, please don’t say it. You’re wasting your time as well as your audience’s time. Don’t be boring. It’s annoying.

If you’re saying something primarily to get attention or to be talked about, don’t say it. Just please don’t. You’re still wasting everyone’s time, but it’s even more annoying because it’s more visible.

So unless you have something of substance to communicate AND you have a good reason for communicating that something, just stop. Don’t reconsider, don’t even save it as a draft. Just delete it. And stop being annoying.

And with that, I will return to studying for my first exam over international accounting policy–something that is, dare I say it: Boring and obnoxious. Pray for my soul.

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The Exception to the Rule

January 12, 2010 · 2 Comments

Another tactic of the social media guru that is lacking in authenticity: Automated DMs to all new followers.

A few days ago I tweeted the following:

Should you send an automated DM to new twitter followers?http://bit.ly/6xc8IM <<Conclusion-No, you shouldn’t.

The link directs the user to The Baby Boomer Entrepreneur, a blog by Andrea J. Stenberg about marketing for the 40+ crowd. Andrea underestimated herself, as I (22 years young) enjoyed the blog thoroughly.

So Andrea J. Stenberg wrote a post entitled “Should You Send an Automated DM to New Twitter Followers?“. It’s clever and insightful, but more importantly, it affirmed that which I already believed. No. You shouldn’t. It’s annoying. Andrea has some good thoughts. Read them.

However, last night I received that monumental Exception to the Rule. I started following Steve Keating (@leadtoday), who is a “builder of People, Improving the Sales Profession, Developing the Next Generation of Leaders, Not selling a thing on Twitter, only giving back.”  Imagine my surprise when I got an email telling me that Steve had sent me a DM. Of course. Typical. Time to purge my inbox for the 500th time that day. I was pleasantly surprised when the DM sent by @leadtoday contained the following message:

I appreciate you have chosen to follow me. I’ll try to make my tweets useful and I’ll promise to never try selling you a thing on Twitter.

Two possible scenarios: Steve Keating realized that I despised automated DMs and praised authenticity, and decided to send me a kind and genuine individual DM. Either that, or Steve Keating is a thoughtful and clever individual who wants nothing more than to help others and get his ideas out into the world. So kudos to you, Steve Keating of @leadtoday, for proving me wrong.

As it turns out, it is possible to be authentic but still take advantage of all of the wonderful tools twitter clients have to offer.

Everyone should take note.

Third possible scenario: Steve Keating is a diabolical mastermind who found a way to win the hearts of his followers and convince them that he has a good heart and an even better message. Soon enough, he will exploit this trust he has created and brainwash us all via Twitter. OR, he will exploit the trust and sell us all on the newest FDA-approved method to lose 25 pounds in 6 hours, GUARANTEED!

Either way, that Steve Keating is a smart guy.

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Attempt at Authenticity

January 12, 2010 · 2 Comments

Authenticity is a concept I struggle with on a daily basis. It seems, in many aspects of life, authenticity actually ends up being counterproductive. Had I pretended to care about auditing, rather than changing the world, I could have been banking on an audit internship right now. Granted, I would also be dead inside, but I would be banking.

A more challenging example would be twitter. Or even this blog. I could post millions of things with millions of hashtags and talk about how I’m a social media guru or something. I could retweet things 5 times a tay (to hit optimal twitter traffic levels), and yes, I’d probably have more followers. I could rationalize this by saying that I would allow more people to hear my message, which is cool. But what about that person that reads the same post 5 times (happens to me all the damn time). I unfollow those people as soon as they start to annoy me. If they have a good message, I’ll let it slide. But for the most part, their motives seem tainted and they bother me. But it’s a nice feeling to get a hell of a lot of followers/clicks/retweets/@s/blog views, etc.

So where do you draw the line? At what point are you willing to sacrifice your authenticity in order to achieve results? I’ve done pretty well for myself by sticking to my guns, but it’s been a tough road. I have maybe 70% of the world eating out of the palm of my hand, but the other 30% presents some significant obstacles. It’s those 30% that read social media blogs and figure out exactly what the guru of the hour feels is “the key to social media success” or “the proven method to get 100000 followers in 30 minutes.”  My favorite is when I see twitter novices using methods that are taken directly from the first search result for “twitter tips for beginners”. When the “sassy sexy waitress from cali” retweets a post about London’s banking debacle or some random guy asks obligatory questions to all 34 of his followers in a desperate attempt to get some @random_guy visibility within the twitter universe.

Yeah it’s cool to have followers, but is that why you do it? So you can say that last month you had 29 followers, but now you have 134? Is that what social media is all about?

I stumbled accross Vanessa Tan’s blog post entitled “Twitter users: Be genuine”. I absolutely agree with everything she’s saying.

The take-home point is to be genuine both ways: as a Twitter user (in posting updates) and as a follower. It saves everyone a lot of trouble in the long run because you’ll get updates from people you’re really interested in, and you’ll have conversations with other people with common interests. Less is more.

As with all other forms of social media: Once a fad matures, one’s success comes from staying genuine (and interesting).

I like it. But is the feeling of satisfaction that we didn’t succumb to those pathetic tendencies of most “social media enthusiasts” enough? Sometimes, yes. Other times, it’s just terribly frustrating. I do enjoy hearing others’ thoughts on things like this. Am I wrong? How do you rationalize your social media methodology? Prove me wrong.

If anyone takes note of the trickery involved with this post, I will become your biggest fan (or biggest follower or whatever, depending on your level of authenticity).

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